Does Your Relationship Feel Like a Constant Struggle?
You didn’t sign up for this. You wanted a partner, but lately, it feels like you are living with a roommate—or worse, an enemy. I help couples who are facing:
The “Roommate” Syndrome: You function well together, but the intimacy, spark, and connection have vanished.
The Circular Argument: You fight about the same small things (dishes, time, money) over and over, but never resolve the real root cause.
The Wall of Silence: One of you shuts down/withdraws, and the other chases/criticizes. It’s an exhausting cycle.
Recovering from Infidelity: The trust is broken, and you don’t know if it can be rebuilt.
Why “Just Talking” Often Doesn’t Work
Many couples come to me saying, “We’ve tried talking, but it just leads to more fighting.” That is because logical talking doesn’t fix emotional wounds.
My approach as a counsellor is inspired by Possibility Management and EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy). I don’t just act as a referee for your arguments. I help you access the feelings beneath the conflict. We stop the blame game and start building a new culture of communication so that it is safe for you be honest again.
How Online Couples Counselling Works
I work with couples across New Zealand (Christchurch, Auckland, Wellington) and globally via Zoom. Online counselling allows you to engage in this deep work from the comfort and safety of your own space.
- Sessions: 60 Minutes (Longer intensives available).
- Investment: $115 NZD per session.
- Language: Sessions available in English or German.
Stop Waiting for it to “Get Better” on Its Own
Relationships rarely fix themselves without new tools. If you are ready to stop the cycle and reconnect, let’s talk.
Step-by-Step Relationship Counselling Journey
1. Free 30-Minute Introductory Call
- Purpose: A relaxed video call to get to know each other.
- What happens: You can share what’s going on in your relationship and ask any questions you have about how I work.
- Goal: We get a feel for whether we’re a good fit to work together.
- No pressure, no obligation.
2. First Full Session
- Duration: 60 minutes via video call.
- Focus: We take a closer look at your relationship dynamics and start identifying what’s not working — and what you both long for instead.
- You’ll leave with: a deeper understanding of your patterns, and some immediate steps to improve communication.
3. Progress Check (Around Session 4–5)
- Check-in: We reflect together on what’s shifted since you started. For some, these first sessions offer enough clarity to move forward on their own. Others may want to go deeper — exploring emotional connection, healing old wounds, and building a stronger foundation.
- Decision: Together, we decide what feels right for your journey.
4. Continued Sessions (Ongoing Support)
- Commitment: If you choose to continue, we meet weekly or fortnightly — always tailored to your pace and goals.
We focus on what matters most to you. - Focus areas: Emotional intimacy, conflict resolution, rebuilding trust, or individual growth within the relationship.
- Healing and growth: Over time, the relationship becomes a safer, more loving and connected space for both of you.
The Goal:
Not just to "fix" problems — but to help you and your partner feel seen, heard, and loved.
Start with a free 30-minute intro call to see if we’re a fit. Ready to dive straight in? You can also book a full session here (NZ$ 115). Let’s get going!